Clients in committed relationships usually come to see me when they feel emotionally disconnected with their partners. Whether such disconnection is a result of a lack of intimacy, lack of sex, familiarity and boredom, lack of positive communication or frequent conflict in the relationship, affairs, or abusive behaviours, my goal is to help couples repair their relationships, establish an emotional bond and sexual experiences with each other.
Our therapeutic work will enable you to fall in love all over again with your partner. You will learn to listen and share your feelings and desires in a more intimate and authentic way. You will learn to empathize, forgive, heal, communicate, and, of course, how to flirt with your partner so that the “spark” stays alive. You will go out on dates and participate in other assigned intimacy enhancement homework in which you will rediscover one another. All that is asked of you is that you wholeheartedly commit to the process. If you do, a positive outcome will be inevitable.
Sometimes a relationship will have deteriorated to the point of no return. If this is the case, I will provide the support and tools that you need to grieve over your losses and re-define a new partnership, especially if children are involved.
Couples are welcome to attend together at the same time or individually. In my sessions, one partner will often initially come for therapy with the other partner joining after one or two sessions. I work will all couples regardless of their sexual orientation and monogamous/non-monogamous commitment.
The counselling process consists of help in the following areas (and more):
- Intimacy, sensual, or sexual touch and sex
- Communication between couples
- Rebuilding trust
- Learning to cope and manage jealousy
- Recovering and healing after betrayal or an affair
- Learning to communicate about sex, wants, and desires
- To become aware of a partner’s needs, wants, and desires
- Opening up the relationship to a different relationship dynamic
- Heterosexual or same-sex relationships
- Monogamous or non-monogamous (open) relationships
- Parenting and family issues
- Financial issues
- Work-related stress
- Different goals and values